The Resilient Divorce

My name is Cade Resnick and I have been where you are. It is not a great place to be, yet I have walked the path you are traveling. 

I am a dad, an ex-husband, and a child of divorced parents. Perhaps the trifecta of experience (laughter is the best medicine). I am also a counselor who works with families and people to rebuild their lives from severe mental situations. In that I am no stranger to the hard work that a trauma such as divorce brings on. 

My experience as a counselor did not help me be blinded as to who I was married to (narcissism) yet what it did to for me is to understand that we can all benefit from more than just counseling, sometimes we need a divorce guide to get us through it all. When it was time for me to approach my divorce, I was not sure what the path would look like. I was successful at what I was doing, a good partner to my now ex-wife, and I spent time with my kids who brought a smile to my face each day. I was not ready for what I would uncover.  I was not prepared to see the life going on behind my back and thus the trauma that ensued took me through many emotions.  The journey takes a long time to heal mentally and emotionally. 

I share this with you because from my experience in the process, I learned a significant amount of what it takes to maneuver through the darkness that is divorce. Make no mistake, the process is long, it is emotional, and it deserves to be considered a rebirth. 

Having come through the dense forest of divorce, I now choose to restructure my focus and to help others. The whole process that is divorce deserves an experienced counselor, with the experience of what you are going through in your mind and heart. 

Going through this process I have found “me” once again. I have uncovered areas of life that I truly enjoy, I have found my way into new and exciting adventures, and I have fostered many great friendships. I have learned that there is no shame in being able to say “why me”, or to question yourself in order to grow from the experience. I came to my divorce because of the actions of someone else, yet it takes two people in a marriage, so instead of saying “she did it”, I worked through what she did and accepted the role in which I could have been better. I then spent my time working through the changes into the person I wanted to become. 

My journey has made me more empathetic toward others, more vulnerable, less ashamed of what I have had to deal with, and at peace with who I am now. My passion for life never changed, it just needed a new path, a new story – with new chapters and new experiences for me. I believe your story will help you navigate through the forest 

I came out of my divorce fog understanding that Divorce is not always the problem, it can be the solution to a problem.  

We promise to be there for you every step of your journey. Our goal is to help you grow from your struggles, heal from your pain, and move forward to where you want to be in your life. 

There are difference phases in the divorce process. Each of these is different. You are not alone in going through a very emotional time, and that is where I come in to help you. In the role as your coach, I am here to listen to what is going on, hear what you are saying, share in some of your pain, and be a guide to help you through the darker times. There are many ways to feel supported that are healthy, and that is where I come in as your coach. 

Having someone help guide you toward the clarity within each stage is incredibly valuable. Here are some reasons you might want to consider reaching out to a Divorce Coach:

• You're so fearful about your future that you can't make decisions
• You have no idea what you're going to do when the divorce is final
• You're very angry and are trying to use your divorce to get revenge
• You're not familiar with the legal process and would like someone to hold your hand through it
• You're not thinking clearly and it's making it very hard to make any decisions
• You are struggling to figure out a parenting plan that's going to work
• You are struggling to figure out how you will co-parent

You don't know what you don't know! This is one of the hardest areas within the divorce process to truly understand. There is so much nuance that is going to be sorted through, and in all of that I will be your guide.  I have helped many others walk the delicate path of the Divorce document, Parent Plan and Financial conversions that are needed during this time. Lawyers do what they do, which is to help you to achieve a divorce. Where I come in is that I help you prepare for your future, the future of your family and the sanity you will need down the road. Experience has shown me time and again that the work of your attorney is to help you to achieve a divorce and their formulas are setup to make this process work. The legal process of today may not help you for the future, and that is where my experience in preparing you for the future, before